The Mill- Sifting Through the Stuff of Life.

My wife Cindy and I, find ourselves doing a lot of marriage counseling.  It’s not clinical per se, but rather very relational and most of the time in our baement.  It’s clear to me that no one is really good at marriage when left to their own abilities.  We are all pretty bad at it, outside a relationship with God.  What I find interesting is most of the time our dream of growing up meeting someone, having a unique close connection marrying and living happily ever after seems to always get put on hold by how we can make more money, accumulate stuff, get a better education, raise the children.  We spend countless hours on these things and truly believe that they will make us happy, while the relationship that will make us happy is ignored or even abused by neglect.  We spend much of our life in school to learn what we need to be successful in our careers, but we spend zero time studying how to have a great marriage. Most of the time the only thing that we have to go on is our parents marriage or some relative who were probably no good at either.  Study your spouse, learn what they like, apply scriptures that you generally apply to everyone else to the person closest to you.  It will be worth it.  There are only two true covenant relationships that remain, focus on those and the rest will follow.